Degrazia posted these on another’s blog and I am SO glad she did. Even though I’m a bit different, it really helped to listen to both of these!!!!! If you have trouble with friends, family, or even strangers’ reactions to your changes or transformations, these are great to listen to!!!!
These are my notes during the second podcast….. Sharing in case anyone wants to know and also for my own future reference.
My U, as Brad discussed, is the opposite for me. I get more pleasant attention when I’m heavier. I am accepted in to groups, crowds, events, because I’m the nice, sweet, helpful, non-threat female.
Being healthy, but not even closed to VI, there is a shift in my appearance, therefore a shift in how I am perceived by people that don’t know me well or at all. I know this is going to be such a personal adventure for me to become my best possible physically fit self.
No one’s outside influence has caused me to want to lose weight. It is my own comfort, my clothing, my daily pain, and physical weakness that always spikes me to want to shed fat and become physically stronger.
Because I am still me when I’m thinner, I’m still nice, friendly, I think that sends out signals to others that it’s okay to say things to me that they wouldn’t generally say (or maybe they would since they do) to someone (and now I suddenly, to them, fit their own criteria).
I am not in “competition” with anyone else, from my point of view. The venus factor reviews helped me realize even more that even though that is not MY intention or outlook, others will still perceive things this way… as a competition and/ or reflection of their own insecurities, along with being a reflection of something they think they want.
I am genuinely happy for others when they have great successes in life. Just as I am sad when things happen that are sad or unpleasant. I can truly feel those things without it being a reflection on myself or my own life. When I’m happy for you, it’s because I’m happy for you… lol. I can see things that I don’t have, but still be happy for others when they do. Everything anyone has in this world is about both your work, your experiences, your decisions, with a little bit of luck sometimes.
Whether it’s houses, cars, finances, fitness, health, etc… all of it. I’m not a jealous or envious person. When I want something, no matter what it is, I know eventually I will reach my goal (in everything in life). I read on another post from a couple years ago, something about how we are nice because we get something out of it. I disagree with this 100%. I also know that things are very different than they “appear” to be. I’ve had so many people assume things about me or my life since I was really young, that I KNOW what that feels like. It is, in my opinion, no one’s duty, job, or right to judge anyone else. You never know what’s going on and unless you are in it, you could never truly know the ins and outs of that person’s life. Might look like all roses from the outside, but who knows what they are struggling with or have dealt with to get there.
We are all on our own journeys. It isn’t right or wrong, good or bad. Our reality is truly our own perception of it. If we believe something to be true, for us, then it is true. Just like looking at pictures in magazines, or at someone’s life from the outside of it. A great friend of mine told me for years, never-mind about the little stuff. Because I’m an over-thinker and used to worry about every single thing… time is too precious to be wasted away worrying about things out of your control or focusing on things that do not concern you… lol!
Just my thoughts! Hope everyone is having a great week!